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My First Advice Column

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | February 26, 2018

 I’ve always wanted to secretly be an advice columnist so I was thrilled when I got this email: “This is NOT urgent, but it is a compliment … Given that you read and listen to everything, (ed note: not everything but I do try to stay up-to-date) I wanted to kindly, graciously request Dr. Jo’s Recommended Top 5 Book (or articles)…

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this is why i pay full price

This is Why I Pay Full Price

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | May 17, 2017

It’s springtime in the Bay Area and you know what that means? Yes! Lots of spring school auctions. Bid on this dinner, this massage, this gift certificate to a local store. It all sounds reasonable. And a great bargain!

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feeling overwhelmed

Feeling Overwhelmed? What is YOUR True Limit?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | May 15, 2017

True confession here. Although the majority of my clients at one time or another turn to me for some time/energy management help, I’m always walking that journey alongside my clients. No matter how much I know (and practice) of optimal time management practices, I still find myself at times, well simply, overwhelmed.

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Feedback: Do It More, Do It Better

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | May 7, 2017

With that arrival of Q1, it often brings around long-overdue performance reviews. So whether you’ve just wrapped up yours or you’re delaying the inevitable, I thought I would share some of my own learnings about the daunting task of giving feedback.

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want to have it all

Want to have it all? Read this first…

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | May 5, 2017

Have you ever felt like you were on a treadmill: you’re working incredibly hard but just not gaining ground? (Yes, I’ve felt this way too!)

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its hard to say goodbye

It’s Hard to Say Goodbye

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | May 4, 2017

If you’ve been on my email list for awhile, you might have noticed something – or rather the lack of something. I haven’t been writing any emails or blog posts.

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Your Essential Guide to Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence – What You Need To Know [Infographic]

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | September 19, 2016

This is a guest post from Davitt Corporate Partners. Over the past number of years there has been a shift away from IQ to EQ.

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im just really busy

“I’m Just Really Busy”

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | August 3, 2016

I’m too busy to chit chat with you in the hallway. I’m too busy to go out for lunch – eating at my desk, or just eating at 4pm is fine.

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Emotions At Work: Needless Or Necessary?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | June 7, 2016

Last weekend I sat on the sidelines as my 14-year-old son played a local tennis tournament. I often compare the court side behavior of these young men.

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What To Do When You’ve Got A ‘Bad Boss’

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | April 19, 2016

More likely than not, you have worked for a bad boss. I’ve had clients tell me about bosses who lied to them, then denied it; bosses who belittled them and made them cry in meetings; and even bosses who threw something “near” them and cursed.

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