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Does Change Make You Kick and Scream?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | January 5, 2023 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on change, the image shows a yellow sign with the words "change ahead".

Does CHANGE make you kick and scream? This learning snack is inspired by my niece. I just came back from an amazing family vacation in Chile and it was something that she said while we were traveling that made me reflect on how change is life for most of us. If you trying to motivate…

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What Are Your Goals for 2023?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | December 29, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on 2023 goals, the image shows years 2023 2022

Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about 2023 and what plans I want to make as well as what goals to set. For the first time in recent memory, I don’t want to make any big changes as the New Year rolls around, but instead, want to nurture and maintain what I already have. For…

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Five Ways To Tell If You’re Getting Wiser

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | November 16, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on leadership lessons, the image the Indigo Girls live in concert.

This article was first published by Forbes I recently had the pleasure of seeing one of my favorite bands live in concert. It was an anniversary gift from my husband and my first live show in years! To my complete surprise, as the Indigo Girls came onstage and started singing “Least Complicated,” I felt my…

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Are You In the ‘In Group’ at Work?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | September 28, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on the In Group in the workplace, the image shows a woman standing by herself away from a group.

Are you in the ‘In Group’ at work or do you feel left out? My client was feeling left out and and I needed to help her. My recent discussion with a client inspired this week’s learning snack video. After her recent hire, my client was given an office stuck on the outskirts, in a…

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The Difference Between Shame and Guilt 

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | September 6, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on shame, the image shows a red-headed woman holding her head in her hands.

Have you ever read something that made you rethink what you knew before? When I read about shame and guilt in Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart, she made me do just that. Have you read her book?  I have heard Brené talk about the difference between shame and guilt before but what was so powerful…

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Are You Paying Attention to Awe and Wonder?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | August 29, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on paying attention, the image shows a sky over the sea with birds.

Are you paying attention to the things of awe and wonder around you? A few weeks ago, I was in beautiful Carmel and its beauty inspired me to make this quick video while I was walking on the beach. I encourage you to spend a few moments this week looking at the wonderful, awesome beauty…

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Are You Missing The Obvious?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | August 4, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on decision-making, the image shows an image of two arrows facing opposite directions.

Recently I had the joy of spending some time on Cape Cod with my daughter, who was about to go to camp, and one of my oldest and best friends. While my daughter was plugged into her earbuds, my friend and I had a lot of time to talk as we drove around the Cape.…

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Self-compassion Is Hard

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | July 21, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on self-compassion, the image shows a dictionary open to the word compassion

Is self-compassion more important than self-esteem? Well, research shows it can be. But practicing self-compassion is hard. On Valentine’s Day this past year, I broke my ankle (better than a broken heart perhaps?), and as I was reflecting back on that time, it made me think about self-compassion. Self-esteem makes us feel like “I can…

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