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Are You In the ‘In Group’ at Work?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | September 28, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on the In Group in the workplace, the image shows a woman standing by herself away from a group.

Are you in the ‘In Group’ at work or do you feel left out? My client was feeling left out and and I needed to help her. My recent discussion with a client inspired this week’s learning snack video. After her recent hire, my client was given an office stuck on the outskirts, in a…

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The Difference Between Shame and Guilt 

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | September 6, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on shame, the image shows a red-headed woman holding her head in her hands.

Have you ever read something that made you rethink what you knew before? When I read about shame and guilt in Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart, she made me do just that. Have you read her book?  I have heard Brené talk about the difference between shame and guilt before but what was so powerful…

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Are You Paying Attention to Awe and Wonder?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | August 29, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on paying attention, the image shows a sky over the sea with birds.

Are you paying attention to the things of awe and wonder around you? A few weeks ago, I was in beautiful Carmel and its beauty inspired me to make this quick video while I was walking on the beach. I encourage you to spend a few moments this week looking at the wonderful, awesome beauty…

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Are You Missing The Obvious?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | August 4, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on decision-making, the image shows an image of two arrows facing opposite directions.

Recently I had the joy of spending some time on Cape Cod with my daughter, who was about to go to camp, and one of my oldest and best friends. While my daughter was plugged into her earbuds, my friend and I had a lot of time to talk as we drove around the Cape.…

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Self-compassion Is Hard

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | July 21, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on self-compassion, the image shows a dictionary open to the word compassion

Is self-compassion more important than self-esteem? Well, research shows it can be. But practicing self-compassion is hard. On Valentine’s Day this past year, I broke my ankle (better than a broken heart perhaps?), and as I was reflecting back on that time, it made me think about self-compassion. Self-esteem makes us feel like “I can…

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Are Your Habits Still Serving You?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | June 2, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on habits, the image shows two signs, one saying good habits and the other bad habits, with arrows pointing in different directions.

All of us develop habits, both in our personal and work life. Yet are they still serving you? Are they still helping you? I challenge you to pick one habit that you have had for a long time and ask yourself, “Is this habit still doing what I want it to do for me?” These…

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Can you increase your creativity?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | March 24, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on becoming more creative the image shows a woman sitting thinking at a desk in front of a colorful, creative background.

Do you tell yourself you’re not that creative? Then, today’s post is for you. You can become more creative by looking at the components of creativity and seeing where you can push yourself to be better. In this video, I share my creative process to help you define and refine yours. The first step is…

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Life-Work Balance: Setting an Ending Time

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | March 17, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on life work balance and creating work boundaries, the image shows a large ticking clock.

These days when the lines between life and work are not clear, I want to know if you set an ending time? Not only can it help your life-work balance, it can also make you more productive. Back when I was writing my Ph.D. thesis, I took a “How to Finish Your Dissertation Class”. The…

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