Posts by Jo Ilfeld, PhD
Amplify Voices on Your Team
Have you ever been in a meeting where you said something that you thought was really brilliant and no one really seemed to notice and then a few minutes later, someone else said something remarkably similar and everyone piled onto it? That can be pretty frustrating, right? Believe it or not, I’ve heard more stories…
Read MoreAmbition vs. Gratitude
Ambition vs. gratitude and the tension between the two. Do you feel that there is so much in your life that is going well and yet you still want something more? And then you feel guilty because you feel you are not grateful enough for what you do have? Many of my clients feel this…
Read MoreAre You Tripping Yourself Up?
This past summer, I had the joy of spending two summer weeks in Carmel, a place by the ocean I love. It was a working vacation but I made time every morning to walk along the ocean and on the beach. It got me to start my day with a gorgeous vista, it got my…
Read MoreWhat Are You Avoiding?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how there’s always something we are avoiding but different types of people are avoiding different types of things. Are you a hard-driving, hard-charging personality? Then you might be avoiding rest or taking time for yourself. Or are you facing a really big task that seems overwhelming and you…
Read MoreCovid Makes It Take Longer
Are you that person who gets frustrated by someone so long to do a task that you know will only take five minutes? And are you also that person who’s been putting in longer hours because of all the extra work created by Covid? Then you’re like me and this video is for you. When…
Read MoreCelebrating Endings
I posted this video back at the beginning of summer but it’s still relevant now as it seems that many of us will continue to be working remotely as we move toward the end of 2021. When working from home, it seems like we have fewer endpoints in our lives, defined endings to the day…
Read MoreGetting the 30,000-Foot View
How do you get that 30 000 foot view of the lay of the land, that big picture? In today’s world, we seem to be pulled in so many different directions that it can be almost impossible to see the wider view of what’s going on in our work. We find ourselves putting out fires…
Read MoreTrack Your Turn
Are you taking up more oxygen in the room than others or are you barely contributing to meetings, such that people are wondering why you’re there. An important aspect of emotional intelligence (EQ) is relationship management. Often this means making sure that there is time and space for everyone to get their opinion and thoughts…
Read MoreHow To Gracefully Recover When Your Technology Fails During Meetings
Article originally appeared in Forbes Last week, I was on a working vacation with my daughter and had a planned meeting with a new connection. Let’s call him John. When I jumped off my previous client call, I was already running two minutes late, which, of course, never feels good. I checked my digital calendar…
Read MoreTake a Mini Reset and Build Your Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
How many times have you sat in a meeting, whether it’s virtual or in-person, and found yourself frustrated because of what’s happening? Maybe someone keeps presenting the same idea over and over even though you have told them multiple times that it just won’t work. Or maybe you wish that someone would get to the…
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