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Trying Asking for Advice – Not Giving It 

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | June 8, 2023 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on giving advice the image shows a business woman using her hands to explain something.

Have you ever found wanted to give advice to someone at work? Well, there’s a way to do it right. I recently came across a fascinating book by Katie Milkman called “How to Change.” In it, she explores the impact of advice-giving on our behavior. I think we all intuitively know this but she has…

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The Hierarchy of Communication

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | May 10, 2023 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on the hierarchy of communication the image two people sitting on a log using tin cans with a string attached pretending they are telephones

Communication is not just about conveying information, but also about understanding the message and the intention behind it. Sparked by a recent discussion with a client, I shared with her my hierarchy of communication and the most effective ways to communicate an idea or a disagreement. The top priority in communication is face-to-face communication. Sitting…

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Three Steps to Ending Things With Grace

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | February 2, 2023 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on ending things with grace, the image shows a fall landscape with a winding road leading into the horizon.

This article originally appeared in Forbes and was listed in January’s Editors’ Picks. Towards the end of last year, I was knee-deep in helping my son, a high school Senior, with his college applications. So we’re talking grammar in my household. We all know that you end sentences with a period. A comma signals that a thought…

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Be a Connector, Not Just a Networker

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | January 26, 2023 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on networking, the image shows pinboard with pins connected by strings.

Be a connector, not just a networker. What do I mean by that? I have built a large network at this stage of my career and one of the most valuable things you can be as a networker, and one I take a lot of pleasure in, is recognizing when I can’t really help someone…

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Tough Conversations – Another Perspective 

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | October 12, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on tough conversations, the image shows two diverse men talking with serious faces.

Tough conversations at work can leave you feeling upset, hurt, and downright angry. Often, these emotions continue to build and build as you reflect on what was said. I know I have experienced this, and I’m sure you have, too. Yet, what I want to explore here is how can you turn this negative experience…

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Do You Feel Silenced at Work? 

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | October 5, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on being silenced at work, the image shows a woman with her eyes over her face in front of a laptop.

Do you feel silenced at work? Silenced by your boss, peers, or even direct reports? Even when you’re an accomplished professional, at the top of your field, you can still end up feeling silenced by the people around you. Perhaps you don’t feel this way, but it’s my hunch that someone who is working with…

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Are You Getting An Outside Perspective?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | September 15, 2022 |
For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on outside perspective, the image shows a woman looking through a camera lens.

Getting an outside perspective can make all the difference. If you ever experienced some kind of breakdown, whether at work or in your personal life, what was the turning point for you? In one of my monthly meetings with other colleagues, a brilliant friend stated that the turning point for all the stories of breakdowns…

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