Workplace Relationships: Make Connections Not Transactions
Do you have those people that your stomach just drops every time you see an email or a phone call from them? Those whose messages induce a feeling of dread?
These are the people who only reach out when they need something. It’s a very transactional relationship that is often a request for your time or a complaint. So the minute you see their phone number on your phone, or you see a Slack from them, your first thought is, “Oh no, what’s wrong now?”
Then there are those whose emails or messages spark some joy, those with whom you are happy to interact. While not everyone needs to be a workplace best friend, being labeled as purely transactional can harm professional relationships. The key lies in making an effort, reaching out when not in need, and offering assistance rather than consistently seeking it.
To avoid becoming THAT person, the one who colleagues avoid, take a moment to evaluate your recent interactions. Consider the depth of your relationships on a scale of one to ten, with ten being deeply connected and one being purely transactional. If you find yourself scoring five or below, it’s time to invest in building authentic connections.