Posts by Jo Ilfeld, PhD
Navigating Change: Slow Down Before You Land on Your Butt
Change. So many of my clients are talking about change lately. It can be big areas of change within their company: new objectives, hybrid working, or returning back to the workplace. It might be dealing with kids going back to school or college or changes in family situations with elderly parents. If you find yourself…
Read MoreHow to be Compassionately Persistent
Is it possible to get your needs met and be compassionate at the same time? Yes, you can and in this video below, I share how a good friend of mine helped me make that realization. I would love to hear your thoughts. What are your suggestions for being persistent in getting your needs met…
Read MoreEnvy: What is it Telling You?
Hands up if you have an occasional stab of envy when a friend or colleague shares something about their life? Yeah, me too. Sometimes when we experience envy, it could be a really good signal to us of something that we really care about or something we might want to prioritize in our life. But…
Read MoreHow do you know when enough is enough?
For the past few months, I’ve been returning again and again to this question, “How do you know when enough is enough? I will give you an example of what I mean. Over the summer, my kids were at camp and I put together two care packages for them. It involved a whole lot of…
Read MoreAmplify Voices on Your Team
Have you ever been in a meeting where you said something that you thought was really brilliant and no one really seemed to notice and then a few minutes later, someone else said something remarkably similar and everyone piled onto it? That can be pretty frustrating, right? Believe it or not, I’ve heard more stories…
Read MoreLess Focus and More Blending
Even in sunny California, the season is changing. The mornings are crisp, I rarely worry about being too hot on my weekly hikes anymore, and often when I wake up now, it’s still dark (never very motivating for a non-morning person like myself!). It’s also a big month in my world. My youngest is getting…
Read MoreAmbition vs. Gratitude
Ambition vs. gratitude and the tension between the two. Do you feel that there is so much in your life that is going well and yet you still want something more? And then you feel guilty because you feel you are not grateful enough for what you do have? Many of my clients feel this…
Read MoreAre You Tripping Yourself Up?
This past summer, I had the joy of spending two summer weeks in Carmel, a place by the ocean I love. It was a working vacation but I made time every morning to walk along the ocean and on the beach. It got me to start my day with a gorgeous vista, it got my…
Read MoreWhat Are You Avoiding?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how there’s always something we are avoiding but different types of people are avoiding different types of things. Are you a hard-driving, hard-charging personality? Then you might be avoiding rest or taking time for yourself. Or are you facing a really big task that seems overwhelming and you…
Read MoreCovid Makes It Take Longer
Are you that person who gets frustrated by someone so long to do a task that you know will only take five minutes? And are you also that person who’s been putting in longer hours because of all the extra work created by Covid? Then you’re like me and this video is for you. When…
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